Hold the question, until you live into the answer ~ Rilke

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Getting to Neutral

A transition is the space between an ending and a beginning. I’m not a fan of them. As often as they occur, I’m still pushed off center by them. The graphic below uses the word “neutral” to describe the space between an ending and a beginning. “Neutral” is NOT the word I would choose for this space. On a good day, I would choose awkward, unnerving, or messy. On a bad one: terrifying.


Of course I’d like to be “neutral” towards the transitions in my life and maybe one day I will be. I suppose my negative bias toward navigating change is due to the fact that I’ve made a few critical mistakes along the way. These mistakes while useful for cultivating maturity and wisdom also caused great pain. As best as I can, I’m learning to be still through the rough waters of transition. I notice the pressure, the awkward-unnerving-messiness that comes with moving forward through the neutral zone. My mind demands, isn’t there a faster way? Isn’t there a way to skip this part? Are we there yet? It’s not easy to slow down and be with what is but I’m finding it helpful. Slowing down allows space for possibilities to arise.

I love these words from John O’Donohue…….

“What is being transfigured here is your mind,

And it is difficult and slow to become new.

The more faithfully you can endure here,

The more refined your heart will become

For your arrival in the new dawn.